The positivity in our attitude defines the extent of success in our
lives. It helps you to win the lost battles and achieve impossible feats. You
can overcome from any odd situation in life if you stay positive. As US President Harry S. Truman succinctly puts it “The pessimist
is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who
makes opportunities of his difficulties."
So what is optimism all about? Optimism
is a belief system with three key elements in it. First, the belief in yourself
to make your life and your future better; second, the belief that negative events
in your life are not permanent, personal or pervasive; and third, and belief
those positive events in your life are permanent, personal and insidious.
I share a hijack incident of Kandahar
which moved my own belief system for good. I was supposed to go to Kathmandu
for some official work but the plan changed at the last moment due to some personal
exigency. I requested one of my colleagues to go instead. As the luck would
have it, the return flight got hijacked which sent the shock waves across the nation.
My colleague stayed put in the flight for eight days with the fellow passengers
in the company of armed terrorists. He witnessed cold blooded murder of one of
the unlucky passenger, spent sleepless nights on the flight without any contact
with the outside world. Fortunately, the deal was brokered with the terrorists
and passengers were freed. You know what
- my friend was unscathed by the incident which I could see in his eyes. One
thing which worked with him – the positivity in his attitude in a worst
situation! He always believed that things will just be fine which helped him to
sail through the toughest battle of his life. The research also shows that a
positive outlook on the life strengthens the immune system and consequently
improves our ability to handle stress.
So how do we stay positive?
By feeding your thinking brain
with the positive signals
We can stay positive by feeding
our brain with positive thoughts. We all have two types of brains i.e. thinking
brain and emotional brain and everything we do, involves the experimental
triangle of thought, emotion and actions. If we continue to send positive
signals to the thinking brain that influences the emotional brain, the outcome
would be positive actions. We may develop our attitude during the childhood
years by the world around us which makes us pessimist or optimist in life.
However the good news is that the attitude which breeds negativity can be
changed by regularly feeding the thinking brain with the positive signals. It
requires a regular practice and patience to overcome the negativity in thoughts
but it is definitely possible. Try it out for leading a stress free, happy and
Always feed your thinking brain with the positive signals to tame the
emotional brain which directs your actions.