“Just be you, there is no one better.” ― Taylor Swift
Not all human beings
are the same and yet some of us are image conscious that we pretend to be something,
which we are not. People should have their own thoughts and emotions to have
their own identity.
A lucky few of us are charismatic
and comfortable in all social situations. However,
most people suffer from some degree of self-consciousness at times and alter
their behavior in an effort to appeal to others. This begins in
childhood and becomes a habit we carry throughout our lives. The pressure to
conform resides in most of us.
How much do you pretend to gain
acceptance from others? Interestingly, the people we admire the most are those
that make no effort to conform. We admire individuality.
You can be of your own by following
Be Unique: Do not change your style and do
not purposefully oppose it either. Dress the way you like rather what others
will feel about it.
Focus on others. The best way to avoid of being self-conscious
is to focus on others. If you are conscious on yourself than the chances are
that you will be focusing on your appearance, posture, cloths and words. Eliminate
this self-scanning behavior and you will feel much more comfortable. Notice
your environment. If someone is speaking to you, focus on his or her face and
words. Your ability to focus outside yourself will grow with practice.
Enhance your self-esteem pretending to be something you are not
suggests that you believe you are not good enough in some way.
However, you have done some amazing things in your life. Focus on your positive
qualities. Remind yourself of your successes. Most importantly, leave your
failures and regrets in the past.
Love and trust yourself. You have accepted that you are different, now you have
to love it! Be happy that you are not like the other person. Trust yourself before you can trust anyone
Mind your anxiety. There are many tools to lower anxiety, but it is most
effective to use them when your feelings of anxiousness begin to rise. When you
are highly stressed, it is much more challenging to get your emotions back
under control. When you first notice
yourself becoming uncomfortable, focus on taking slow, deep breaths. Redirect your focus to your breath and your
environment. Your previous thoughts resulted in your anxiety, so change
Identify your purpose in life and live it Do you know your purpose in life?
When you can answer that question definitively, the social pressure will wane.
Imagine your parents are gone Even people in their 50’s and 60’s are still worried about disappointing
their parents. What would you do differently right now, if your parents were
gone? A parent’s influence is never gone completely, but most of us give them
more power than is reasonable. As adults, parents only have the power we give to
Do one thing you have been avoiding It can be something small, but jump in the deep end and do something new.
It might be getting a tattoo or singing Karaoke. Maybe you have always wanted
to take ballet lessons!
Realize that your time is limited everyone is destined
to go someday, so there is little reason to worry. Anything you are worried
about now will be meaningless in the distant future. Have fun and enjoy your
Please remember that the many
people that we admire the most have many detractors too. Break free of the social pressure and discover as to how you can make a
difference to the world by your own identity.