ironical that though the ultimate goal that everyone seeks to achieve is
happiness, not everyone has aligned themselves to being happy. Here are four
attitudes that play a pivotal role in ensuring that you lead a happier and more
Attitude 1: Having
a positive approach to situations, and life in general
often argue that having a positive approach may lead to denial of reality and
therefore impede growth. However, a positive approach does not necessarily mean
not accepting one’s flaws. On the other hand, a positive approach ensures that
we are confident to work on ourselves, and achieve the goals that are important
for us. Although you’ll have difficult times, there’s usually a positive
outcome or lesson to be learned.
an effort to focus on the positive aspects of a situation. It's unlikely that
you'll be able to change what happened, but you can definitely decide how to
thinking gives you confidence to go after your goals. Consider the times when you've
doubted your ability to do something, as against those when you decide to give
it your best shot. When do you succeed? When you focus on positivity, you
attract more positivity into your life!
Having the attitude of gratitude
sometimes easy to overlook the blessings in your life. Negative circumstances
can cloud your vision. But when you possess an "attitude of
gratitude," you'll find that happiness helps you sail through the sad days.
when a situation has a less than favorable outcome, it is within our control to
avoid sulking about it. Instead, we can be grateful for the lesson that the
situation has taught us.
time during your day to focus on the things that you are thankful for. When
that session ends, you will have a greater sense of relief, because you realize
and accept that you are truly blessed.
grateful attitude helps you be satisfied with what you have, rather than
wanting to live the life of someone else, who, in your eyes, is more fortunate.
Having the attitude of kindness and politeness
on to know why two seemingly different attitudes have been clubbed into one.
of us misunderstand kindness. True kindness is often experienced when you share
something you have with someone, who may even not be known to you. How many
times have you been truly kind today? You'll recognize true kindness from the
warmth you feel inside after sharing something material, or even a kind word.
polite is often considered as a sign of weakness. The reality is that it is an
indicator of the respect you show to another person. There may be times, such
as at work, where you may not be able to be kind to a subordinate, because that
is the nature of your work. However, you can still be polite. Being firm yet
polite is the sign of assertiveness.
you interact with others with the attitude of kindness and politeness, you
allow yourself to live life devoid of anger. And Happiness thrives in the
absence of anger.
Having the attitude of forgiveness
often hear my clients say, “I can never forgive others for what they have done
to me. I may be polite superficially, but deep down inside, they have lost my
respect for them”. It's easy to let feelings of hurt and anger affect your
desire to forgive others. But, who is the one suffering? It is none other than
you, yourself! It may not even make a difference to the opposite person. For
you, it is your peace of mind at stake. When you forgive, you trade pain for
peace. That peace leads to happiness.
key attitudes to living a happy life seem simple enough. Try practicing them
one at a time until you are comfortably happy with your progress. Eventually,
you'll be able to experience the kind of happiness you thought only existed in ideal
situations, and not in real life!
you have trouble practicing the above tips, or have been encountering
situations that are too overwhelming for you to handle, we can work together to
help you clear the clutter, define your life goals and work towards them. I
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you enjoyed reading the post. Wish you all the best for a happy life ahead!