Friends..! Do you like yourself..? I expect
unquestionable answer “YES”. If not, start liking yourself. You know
why..? When you like the person you are,
making life choices becomes easier because you trust your own judgment. You
recognize that you have the power to create whatever it is that you want for
yourself and your family.
Try these strategies to raise your
self-esteem to life the life you want.
1. Stay in tune with your
thoughts: Notice when you’re thinking negatively
about yourself. When you can identify the types of situations in which you tend to put yourself down, you can
then do something about them.
2. Squash unhelpful thinking: After you take notice of the situations that trigger those negative
thoughts, you can set out to stop such thoughts or at least divert them. Do so
by developing your own imagery technique.
· Imagine a stop sign and tell
yourself to “Stop Negativity Now.”
· Visualize that you’re at the
beach or your grandmother’s house, where you always feel relaxed and
· Another way to suppress
unwelcome ideas is to seek out something positive in the situations you find
challenging. For example, if you
feel you’re socially inept, make it a point to help others open up to you by
asking questions about their work or hobbies. You’ll likely find some common
ground for a great conversation.
· Learning to stop negative
thinking increases your self-confidence and emphasizes that you choose your own
path rather than a recurring, unfocused thought pattern.
3. Know your strengths: Occasionally reflecting on what you’re good at, will help you see
that you’re cherished, important, and helpful to yourself and others.
List everything you can think of that you do well. Be generous. If nobody makes
a chicken sandwich like you do, write it down. If you consistently win at golf,
include it.Make your list longer and
longer. Keep adding to it. Challenge yourself to add one strength a month to
your list. As your list grows, so will your positive feelings about yourself.
4. Highlight your unique
aspects: If you can recite all elements on the
chemistry table, you’re a truly unique individual. Embrace these special
talents with the care and attention they deserve. Plus, there’s likely someone
out there looking for the off-beat talent or knowledge you hold.
5. Accept your positives and
negatives: Learn to accept the parts of you that
you’ve tried to reject in the past. See those less desirable aspects as insurance
that you’re a member of the human race.
Personal acceptance helps you
see that everything in life has a delicate balance and all parts of you create
the very special “you” that you are.
6. Stay focused to live your
best life: Although it’s wise to be aware of your
less than positive aspects, focusing on the good things will help you excel and
continue accomplishing your goals. Keep moving ahead.
7. Every morning, make the
decision to be in a “good mood.”: It’s a lot easier
to accept who you are when you feel good about this day. Open yourself to the possibilities around you.
8. Set goals that you want to
accomplish: Rather than working toward what your
parents or friends think you should do, search within yourself what you’d like
to work for in life and then go for it. Life is a lot more fun when you choose what
So, friends..! Liking yourself allows you
to share with others all the good you have in your heart. And the more you do,
the more positive energy you have flowing in to your life. Set out today to put
these tips into action. You’ll enjoy your best life ever!
author: Sivananda, popularly known as
“Act of Living Coach” in Bangalore. Sivananda is the creator
of “Act of Living” (The best life coaching program in
Bangalore) program where he
coaches the participants to explore the power with-in to live their life to the
fullest. His client base includes software professionals, students, and
corporate groups. He frequently coach people from various walks of life and
brings out the excellence within them. His “Depression to Succession” program is one of the
unique life coaching program that help people to transform their depression to
succession. People always admire his life coaching abilities and would love to
be part of his life coaching programs and work-shops that he conducts in
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