We have obstacles to overcome each day. How we deal with obstacles and
adversity defines our lives.
Some obstacles are more serious than others. You might crave
potato chips, only to realize that the bag is empty. This is a minor obstacle
and the solution is obvious. Bigger obstacles require an effective approach and
a high level of perseverance.
Use these strategies
to overcome any obstacle or adversity:
1. Take responsibility. Blaming the
circumstances or others is disempowering. If you believe the cause for the
failure is outside yourself, there’s nothing you can do to rectify the
situation. Take responsibility for the current situation and you maintain your
power to change things for the better.
2. Control your negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts are limiting. It’s very easy go down a dark mental path.
There are no answers to be found there. Asking yourself, “Why do I always
fail?” won’t provide useful information. You’ll only succeed in making yourself
stressed, miserable, and less effective.
3. Focus on solutions. Instead of beating
yourself up, seek a solution. Unsuccessful people focus on problems rather
than solutions. Be different. Keep your negative thoughts to a minimum
and redirect your attention to finding a simple, elegant solution.
It’s easier to find something if you’re looking
for it. Focusing on problems only makes them appear more challenging.
4. View adversity as a test. Imagine that
the universe is testing your commitment and cleverness. Can you stay positive,
find a solution, and make it work? Adversity is a challenge of your skills.
Get excited and face the challenge head on.
You can do it.
5. Exercise. Adversity brings stress, and
few activities deal with stress better than exercise. Hitting the weights or
running for few miles can relieve your stress and provide a new perspective.
The type of exercise doesn’t matter, as long as
it lasts at least 30 minutes and you’re breathing heavily by the end.
6. Relax. There are few advantageous to
being anxious. Prolonged anxiety will eventually lead to illness. The best
solutions are likely to present themselves when you’re calm and relaxed.
7. Focus on what you can control. What’s
the point in worrying about things that are out of your control? Keep your
attention on the things you can
control. Ask yourself what you can change and then get busy changing it.
8. Take care of yourself. Eat well,
exercise, and get enough sleep. Eating poorly, lying around all day, and
staying up all night only make you less capable. Be at your best, regardless of
the setback. Maintain your grooming and your social life.
The world is still turning. Be a part of it.
9. Revisit your goals. Remind yourself of
what you’re trying to achieve. Visualize the endpoint and remember how great
you’re going to feel when it happens. If you’re bogged down in the present,
remind yourself of your ideal endpoint.
10. Keep going. Have the courage to
continue pressing forward. Winning is only impossible if you quit.
You can always find a solution. The key is to keep moving forward.
Life is always throwing up roadblocks at inopportune times.
The choice is either to wither away in misery or to use adversity as challenge
to take your life to the next level. Adversity is a test of your perseverance
and problem-solving abilities.
Challenges in life are universal. No one is immune. Dealing
with adversity skillfully separates those that are successful from those that
are not. Make your choice.