I am sure if there was one such thing as “Mommy Resume” it
would look more impressive than anything else. Motherhood practically
guarantees to grow and polish skill set. Life lessons learnt during motherhood
are all tucked in, it’s just time to bring them on and know how well they
impact our lives, our work and world. During the prime years of motherhood all
of us wear different hats sometimes of a leader, a coach, a mentor, event
coordinator, consultant, confidante, so on and so forth.
Let’s roll back and refresh our memories about the numerous
skills we mastered during this phase.
Flexibility and adaptability
The day you bring a new being to this world and she is in
your arms, you become the most flexible person in the world. You are ok to
tweak minutes and hours and days for the convenience of handling the new
blessing. Adaptability feels inherited that day. And aren’t these the basics of
when you choose a job or career. Corporates demand that we work effectively in
a climate of ambiguity and dynamic priorities and yes with motherhood we are
sure to have learnt that art.
I must admit that the procrastination bug did hit me a while
back when everything from picking up dry cleaning to filing taxes was pushed to
an indefinite time. .Sample this- I used to delay collecting investment proofs
and other equally dreaded documents until the last week of submission. I was
thriving in chaos and life was beautiful. But with motherhood in my life, I
couldn't afford to do that. Because with kids around one can never be sure
which evening will be spent nursing a sick child or doing last minute homework
assignments. Life’s a rollercoaster then and procrastination is no less than a
disease. You are no longer responsible just for your own deliverables but also of
all others living with you. Doing things when they must be done becomes an
integral part of your personality.
Your day is filled with doing important tasks like a breeze.
Never ending cycles of feeding, cleaning, packing, unpacking, meal planning,reading,
sleeping and REPEAT leaves no room for procrastination. Like the clock keeps
ticking, you never stop, you never slow down. You are always moving. The longer
you wait, the worse it gets. Technology has definitely played an instrumental
role in this transformation. You are able to capture all brainwaves which
generally strike at oddest of times. You can now respond to email of brand new
customer within minutes? Smart phones are handy and empower us to overcome procrastination.
I can't even begin to emphasize on the importance of this one
both at home and at work. Fortunately for me this was easy, as I could
independently almost always take a decision. And then came this blessed phase
of motherhood which took this skill many notches higher. This is well so tough
for me to understand when I see people struggling in the restaurants over
finalizing the order. When you are raising children, sometimes spending few
minutes on yourself are rare. You want to make the most of it. You definitely
don't want to vile away those precious moments thinking about mundane decision
points. For some in this world decision making may bring some anxiety and
stress, but as mothers we practice this art so often that it becomes a custom.
It doesn’t matter if you are a corporate gal or an entrepreneur, your work will
certainly demand the ability to think on your feet and taking decisions every
now and then. Now that doesn’t scare us anymore.
Yes, yes, you should be living in the moment, enjoying the
present, counting your blessings. You know that no matter what you got to
multitask while managing career, raising kids and running the house. There is
no escape from that and before you realize, you become a multitasking DIVA.
Taking business calls while driving to school event, writing emails while
feeding the little one. It is rather a routine to do endless tasks in one go
and actually when I am doing only one task, it feels weird and wrong. If you
are a mommy you know what I mean.
Influencing and persuasion
Oh are we talking about persuasion, we are champions at it.
Moms can’t get past a single meal without some persuasion and negotiation. Kids
have ample of bright ideas, all of which can’t be accepted, but can certainly
be tweaked to suit the situations. Workplaces so often have similar situation
where our colleagues need to be influenced or helped with to examine an issue
from all sides. Mothers really don’t mind sharing a project, and reshaping it
to fit everyone’s needs.
Leadership and Coaching skills
Motherhood gives us the opportunity to hone our skills to
effectively counsel and coach our kids when they sometimes goof up. We understand
the needs of a child before we structure a well-accepted system for them and
help them be more valuable in whatever they do. Likewisethese skillscan be replicated
when we are around our co-workers where we sometimes need to provide feedback,
supervise, motivate and collaborate with them for their individual benefit and
Mothers are self-driven creatures who don’t need directives
all the time; they have got the art to foresee more than the obvious. Simple
things like possible conflict between extra-curricular activities and academic
goal that could perhaps crop up later. Our dynamic work environments also
demand that we are goal oriented and understand the upcoming challenges too.
All that is said above is not to say that men
do not possess these traits but to emphasize the fact that motherhood surely
brings versatility to women. Motherhood grooms the professional in us and the
gained talent truly helps to handle almost everything when women once again
move from playrooms to boardrooms.