It was a
beautiful morning. Through my window, I could see coconut palms dancing slowly
with the wind. I walked up to the window, a steaming cup of green tea in my
hand. I was surprised to see a pigeon sitting in a corner under the window
pane. Surprised by my appearance, the pigeon spread her wings and flew off,
leaving behind a shiny white egg. I excitedly called my husband to see the egg.
watched, with the twinkle of a five year old in our eyes. Looking out the
window to see the egg, while we sipped our tea, became part of our daily
morning routine. In a few weeks, a baby pigeon poked his head out, breaking the
visitors also wanted to see the little pigeon. Crows flew by, and an eagle or
two. Extremely protective of its young one, the mother would rush out fiercely
at the intruder. We often did the same, running to the window to drive away
unwanted visitors. We realized, in hindsight, that the pigeon had taken a
calculated risk while laying the egg below the window pane – any threats would
have to deal not just with her, but her quasi parents as well (Us!).
little pigeon began walking on the window ledge, and one fine day, it flew
away. Other friendly visitors also came by during this period, examining the
window ledge as potential tenants, surveying it for safety.
A few days
passed and a new egg appeared, followed by a second one a day later. Seeing
this I realized how stories can train our subconscious.
I remember when I was learning how to cycle,
and I fell off and hurt myself. I made an internal storyline – riding a cycle
was dangerous. Our mind is a reference book. Every time I saw a cycle (even the
stationary one in the gym), my brain would recall my childhood fall off the
cycle, and set alarm bells ringing in my head – the cycle is dangerous,
remember! The warning stretched to driving in general - I didn’t dare get into
the driving seat of any vehicle.
To move past
my fear, like the pigeon, I had to take a conscious calculated risk. If others
could drive, so could I. Although I knew this, I still felt a irrational fear. To
help me move past this, I employed Movie Technique (a tool used in NLP).
Every day, I
closed my eyes for 15 minutes and watched myself drive my car, just like a
movie. After three weeks, I gathered the courage to register at a driving
school, and I gave the driving test.
I flunked. I
tried again and flunked a second time. Although
I had not cleared the test, I continued to practice the Movie Technique, and drive
my car daily in my subconscious.
the third time.
at the window pane reminded me of my little success story.
The movie continues
to play, but this time, its real.